WHO AM I?
I am a successful (and unsuccessful) entrepreneur, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, storytelling expert, a marketer, an addict, a mental health advocate, a sexual abuse victim, and someone who lives with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.
I am also a survivor.
I used to be really overweight, really erratic and difficult to be around, and really unhappy. But through a process of personal discipline and completely changing the way that I think, I have managed to get back in control of my life, and now I am helping other people do the same.
As the only person in Asia-Pacific to have worked at both Facebook and Twitter, I am also a thought-leader in using social media as a storytelling tool for businesses and individuals alike, I am a sought-after keynote speaker, and I travel nationally and internationally encouraging audiences to reboot their thinking, to be the very best versions of themselves, to FINALLY start owning and telling their OWN story, to discover their resilience and their true voice, to realise that what other people might see as their ‘flaws’ are actually their ‘superpowers’, and to find their kindness.
THE AMAZON BEST-SELLER
REBOOT YOUR THINKING
Reboot Your Thinking is about how I use 28 daily themes – including fun, mindfulness, boldness, happiness, kindness, shame, guilt, anger, failure, resilience and connection – to think differently and move further towards being the best version of myself. This workbook is full of practical strategies to help you:
* recognise and deal with fear
* overcome low self-esteem
* reflect on and learn from the difficult times in your life
* find your authentic self
* become more connected with others
* improve your life every day.
Learn how to see the world through your eyes, listen to the words being said about you with your own perspective, and be kind to yourself.
ACTUALLY, IT IS ALL ABOUT ME
From the time when I was very little, I was told that ‘the world didn’t revolve around me’. I grew up believing that being ‘selfish’ – whatever I thought that was – was one of the worst things I could be. If nobody was selfish, then everyone would get enough of what they wanted, and everyone would live happily ever after. Well, it didn’t quite work out that way. Not for me, and not for many people in my generation who were taught the same thing. I put everyone’s needs and wants before my own, and even before my own physical (and spiritual) safety. It wasn’t just me though, of course. My whole generation did that. And my parents’ generation. And their parents. But I don’t want that for my kids.
I want my kids to know that they don’t have to get their esteem from anyone, or anything, else. I want them to know that their value was equal to any other human baby born on the same day as them, and that won’t ever change. I want them to know that their primary concern in life should first be about themselves, everyone else in their life – including me – can be considered after they consider themselves. And I want them to know that no matter what kind of relationship they find themselves in, or who they find themselves in a relationship with, they will still be the most important person in their own lives, and should always put themselves first.
When I wrote the best-selling book, Reboot Your Thinking three years ago, its success caught me a bit by surprise, mostly because the book deals with concepts and ideas that are really hard for most people to face when thinking about their own lives: shame, guilt, pain and trauma among them. But the overwhelming feedback that came from readers was that they really DID want to feel those things, and work through those feelings, instead of just cramming them down and hoping they would go away.
Reboot was designed to be used as a 28-day program to help change how people thought about, and talked to, themselves. Basically, each day has a theme, and each of the themes revolves around thinking differently and being better. By encouraging people to think purposefully about things like shame, guilt, criticism, resilience, gratitude and happiness, the book also forced people to focus much more on their present moment, which is the safest place for you to initiate some change from.
Steel Snowflakes is about the millennial generation, those that malign then, WHY they malign them, and how despite all that, these snowflakes will end up being the best adults ever made.
The book explores the great disparity between this ‘Snowflake Generation’ compared to other generations, and in particular in the areas of how they will discipline their own children, their ideas around education, inclusion, and tolerance, how they are able to both explore and express their feelings in a much healthier way, how they feel about work, religion, relationships and technology, and how things like politics, gender, and mental health fit into their lives.