Actually, it IS all about me.

How being selfish can actually be self-less.

The Blurb

From the time when I was very little, I was told that ‘the world didn’t revolve around me’.

I grew up believing that being ‘selfish’ – whatever I thought that was – was one of the worst things I could be. If nobody was selfish, then everyone would get enough of what they wanted, and everyone would live happily ever after.

Well, it didn’t quite work out that way. Not for me, and not for many people in my generation who were taught the same thing.

I put everyone’s needs and wants before my own, and even before my own physical (and spiritual) safety. It wasn’t just me though, of course. My whole generation did that. And my parents’ generation. And their parents.

But I don’t want that for my kids.

I want my kids to know that they don’t have to get their esteem from anyone, or anything, else. I want them to know that their value was equal to any other human baby born on the same day as them, and that won’t ever change. I want them to know that their primary concern in life should first be about themselves, everyone else in their life – including me – can be considered after they consider themselves.

And I want them to know that no matter what kind of relationship they find themselves in, or who they find themselves in a relationship with, they will still be the most important person in their own lives, and should always put themselves first.

Who Is This Book For?

‘Actually, it IS all about me’ is for anyone who wants to challenge their own thinking a little bit, and anyone who wants to re-sort their life so that their own identity is stronger, and to help them to be able to put themselves first more often.

It’s for anyone who feels like they are not at the top of their own pyramid of attention, love and commitment, that they put everyone else first and neglect their own needs, and they fear that one day they might start to resent everyone else in that pyramid that they have sacrificed everything for so long, in order to care for them more than for themselves.

What Will You Learn?

After reading ‘Actually, it IS all about me’, you will have a better understanding of two things: WHY you put everyone else’s needs before you own, and secondly, how to start to heal and be more assertive and confident in having your own needs met in the future.

You will learn why people have always told you ‘it’s not about you’, the difference between narcissism and self-support, how to reclaim your space at top of your own pyramid of, how to convince other people of your worth – including those you really shouldn’t have to convince, how to heal your inner child and why that’s so important to all of us adults, the difference between forgiveness and acceptance, and how to reimagine everything by reparenting yourself now as an adult.

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