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I am doing my best (and so are you).

Feb 12, 2020Articles, Inspiration and Motivation, Personal Growth, Self-Care

Don’t get me wrong — I know sometimes when I am doing my best, it’s not good enough, and that sometimes me doing the best I can looks very different from another time when I am doing my best.

 

And shame doesn’t shake easily.

Frustration with ourselves and our own shortcomings (compared with the high bar that most of us set for ourselves) can lead to a consuming feeling of shame. This isn’t the result of being frustrated by someone else in our life which might end up in anger, or resentment for instance, instead.

And shame sucks man.

We can’t control everyone else, but we expect to be able to control ourselves (at least). 

I speak at lot about controlling those things in our life that we can actually control – to control the ‘controllables’ and stop worrying (as much) about changing the things we can’t change. Well, not at that moment anyway.

So, when we feel that we are lacking in self-control, it’s really easy to get down on ourselves. As an adult, we expect to have a certain level of self-control in every situation, on every day, but that often just isn’t realistic.

 

If we were perfect people, living in a perfect world, things would be different. But we’re not, and we’re not, so they’re not. 

 

Pretty self-explanatory. If I get all this way, I have actually earned being able to move on and forward into healing. So I look forward to tomorrow, and the next day, and the next. Being better each day.

 


 

 

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